Sunday, May 29, 2011

“When I Grow up- I wanna-be a SAHM!”


I want to brag to you about my NEW GREAT IDEA!

I’m gonna write a book! Whether it be for me, or for other women around the world- I’m gonna have it be my new addiction (like facebook) and I’m honestly considering putting facebook on-hold for this short time.


The name of my book is going to be called “When I Grow up- I wanna-be a SAHM!”


Brilliant Right?

I’m gonna basically write each chapter as I go, following my own ‘tips’ for becoming a s.a.h.m. and reference back to the tips I’m learning from others (websites, books and my personal life coach JADE!)

It’s like a journal as I ‘grow up’ or rather ‘grow into the woman I want to become.' :o) What I like the most about it is that it can be my own 'practice what i preach' guide so that I can start thinking with CONFIDENCE, come from a place of KNOWING and PRACTICE success rather than of insecurity/fear/failure.

I’m so excited. This will help me tons (I FEEL) and can’t wait to write the 1st chapter! BYE!

-Crystal

Saturday, May 28, 2011

7 Amazing Productivity Tips for Lazy People


written by: author unknown, (I couldn't find this guy's name: http://happinesshunters.com/7-amazing-productivity-tips-for-lazy-people/)

I must admit that I am quite a lazy person, like many people seem to be. Often, the most tempting way for me to spend a day would be something like going to the beach and listening to some relaxing music on my iPod. For a long time, I thought that it would be impossible for me to enjoy life and get things done at the same time, but recently I have noticed that it is not true.
One of the most important things to realize is that most of the tasks we do daily are not crucial for our long-term success, so just by shaving all the irrelevant tasks from our daily schedule and focusing on just a few of the most important tasks every day makes us proceed incredibly fast by actually working only for a few hours a day.
Even for a lazy guy like me two or three hours of work a day is possible, and whenever I use those two or three hours doing something important that brings me one step closer to my bigger goals, I have a great feeling for the rest of the day (at the beach).
Here are my personal productivity tips for the lazy people:

1. Choose only two or three things to do today.
Setting a limit helps you to choose the most important tasks everyday. If you don’t have any limit, it is too easy to get overwhelmed and get nothing important done, or give up completely. If you try to do too many things in one day, you often end up doing lots of irrelevant tasks that are not really taking you closer to your goals. Think about two or three things to do today that are the most crucial for your success.

2. Choose the tasks for their impact.
People often end up doing things according to their level of urgency. This is harmful for our productivity because usually the most urgent things are not the most crucial things regarding our bigger goals. Instead, choose to always do the things that have the biggest impact on our work long-term, because they are the things that really make difference. Let the irrelevant e-mails be and write a new page to your book or do the important marketing tasks today instead.

3. Don’t let anything distract you.
My problem often is that I “just check out the Facebook for a while” or “just read the online newspapers quickly” before starting to work. Usually I then end up spending many hours surfing online and actually doing nothing. Your mind is playing tricks with you, so don’t let your mind win. Always make the tempting little things your reward. Let them motivate you to finish the important things quickly. This has worked very well for me. Right now as I am writing this, it is perfectly good weather outside and I would just like to get to the beach right away, but I forced myself to finish this article before rewarding myself with the sunshine. I know I will feel so much better afterwards.

4. Choose the tasks beforehand.
A good way is to choose the important tasks for the day the night before, which helps to make the decisions without any urgency that prevents us from choosing wisely. I personally like to choose my daily tasks just before I put on my computer and see any distractions on my screen. Choose the option that suits the best for you, but make sure that you have written the tasks in a small piece of paper, where you remove them one by one when they are done.

5. Start doing the tasks immediately.
The time will never be just right, so don’t allow yourself to find any excuses of prolonging the start of actually doing the few daily things. Just start doing them right away and focus on the thought of getting the reward after you have finished.

6. Do smaller things in batches
We all have often smaller things that we have to do, even though they are not as important to our success. A good way is to leave those little routine things for the afternoon or for the end of the day and do them all at once in batches. Then just do all your e-mails, paperwork, or phone calls at once, so that they will not distract you from doing the most important things everyday.

7. When you are done, reward yourself!
This helps me so well to get the most crucial things done. After I have finished the tasks, I always reward myself with some little things. It can be something like surfing on the internet, reading e-mails, or going out. Today, the weather is perfect, so I am going to reward myself by going to the beach. This article is now almost finished, so that’s my plan for the next few hours. I will enjoy the sun twice as much because I was productive today.
The best thing about choosing just a few of the most important tasks every day, and then just doing them in a short period of time, is that it takes only so little time everyday, but still makes your day much more productive than most of the people who spend eight hours every day in the office doing lots of things, most of which are irrelevant. That’s why you can remain lazy for the rest of the day and feel good about it!
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My Time to Reflect


So, We ended up calming down after midnight and he spoke softly and respectful towards me… he explained that he understand it’s an adjustment for me to be a s.a.h.m. all of a sudden but he says it’s all new to him as well. Ahha- lightbulb moment.

I was wondering why he wasn’t pushing me to get out of bed, or why he wasn’t questioning what I did all damn day- the Jim I ‘used’ to know would’ve been envious that I was at home and didn’t ‘have’ to do anything.

But he explained to me that he HAS BEEN envious all week. He’s had a hard time biting his tongue because he knows this was his idea, to have me stay home and clean house rather than go to work. He’s just starting off very bitterly already because he comes home and sees

----------1. Ok, a few dishes are done- I guess

----------2. Um, ok- she did a couple loads of laundry

----------3. What else did she do today?!?! Those things just take about 15 minutes each, 30 at the most.

So, we started talking about that arthritis commercial and the quote they use “A body in motion tends to STAY in motion, a body a rest tends to STAY at rest.”

And after some good points I made, and some valid ones he made- I just told him to trust that I’m working on it and I want to improve drastically. Yes, for him- but mostly for myself. PLUS- My kids will just benefit the MOST in the end if they grow up with a clean/tidy mom.

I don't know everything, all I know is that- I'm still workin on it. :o/

Friday, May 27, 2011

Goals vs Results 5/27/2011

Going to bed this evening with a big CHIP on my shoulder... Jim thinks I'm treating everyday this week LIKE a SATURDAY! What the heck does that mean?

I'm pretty productive on Saturdays (compared to him) but I know HE doesn't think so- Therefore- the audacity for him to think I'm spending EVERYDAY like's it a weekend/vacation sort of day was very insulting to me. :o(

Yes, I know I'm struggling with this 'clean house instead of work' routine. But If I'm going to feel lazy, it's on MY TERMS damn it! Here is my list of Goals vs Results for Friday, May 27th.

Today's Goals

1. Now that kids are just STARTING their nap at 12:58- I think it's time I get on the ball &

MAKE my to do list

2. I'd like get out of YESTERDAY's clothes (from Wednesday)

Step 1: SHOWER
Step 2: Brush Teeth
Step 3: Do Hair
Step 4: Makeup
Step 5: Shoes!

3. Clean up the dishes in the kitchen

4. Wipe off the counters, stove and sink

5. Sweep the floor

6. Clean up the front room

7. Gather HOMELOVERS clothes & invites

8. Get kids up and dressed

9. Stop by THESE places:

a. Wells Fargo- get $40 in cash
b. Theresa's School- give birthday invitations
c. HOMELOVERS- give shirts, pick up JADE
d. Burger King- Celebrate FRENCH TOAST – don’t spend more than $10
e. Peter Piper Pizza- Give $30 to HOLD party reservation
f. Go home, most likely it will be around 6:30pm

10. Get on my "JOB as a WIFE" blog and update today's GOALS vs: RESULTS

RESULTS

1. Did my goals for today, but then got interrupted by my mother-in-law who kept me on the phone for over an hour. Ugh.

2. Took a shower
a. Shaved legs
b. Brushed teeth
c. Did my hair, (kinda)
d. No make up
e. Slipped on shoes

3. Did a load of dishes

4. Did NOT wipe of counters, stove or sink

5. DID NOT sweep the floors

6. DID NOT clean the front room

7. Gathered HomeLovers clothes and Matthew’s invitations

8. Got Kid up and dressed

9. Stopped by these places
a. Theresa’s school- gave invites
b. HomeLovers- picked up jade, dropped of shirts and Leslie’s frame
c. Went to bank, got $40
d. Went to McDonald’s- nobody really felt like French toast stick day- spent way too much money
e. Dropped off Jade
f. Went to Peter Piper Pizza and gave them only $28 to hold the party reservation
g. Went home, arrive around 6:40- made dinner (frozen pizza) and then got houses ready to drive by tomorrow.

10. Not really doing the blog thing tonight- Jim and I are having a fight about my ‘productivity levels’



1st Friday FrenchToastStick Day = Grade: F+!


I feel so crummy today. I failed to pick up JADE for our 1st celebration of “FRIDAY FRENCH TOAST STICK DAY”. The one and only reason I recommended starting it was to stay in touch and I blew it!
Unintentionally of course, I set my alarm- but when I naturally woke up at 8:08 am, my kids were still sleeping and I couldn’t find my phone. After a little while of searching for it, I found it- on the kitchen counter plugged in. My husband must’ve been trying to be NICE by making sure it was well charged. L Where I FAILED was I probably should’ve told him that I WANTED to wake up early today, he would’ve made sure I did. sigh…

I called JADE right away and apologized for making her late/wonder/worry/upset- whatever the consequences were, I felt so bad.

I notice that when I feel bad about something, I have hard time picking myself UP to the original ‘feel good’ place. Some might call it a slight form of depression, I don’t know- I just call it lazy.

In either case,
I still have not done a SINGLE thing today, (except make breakfast and make lunch) I feel like such a BUMP on the LOG. I need motivation, I want to be IN THE FLOW.

Today's Goals

1. Now that kids are just STARTING their nap at 12:58- I think it's time I get on the ball & MAKE my to do list

2. I'd like get out of YESTERDAY's clothes (from Wednesday)

Step 1: SHOWER

Step 2: Brush Teeth

Step 3: Do Hair

Step 4: Makeup

Step 5: Shoes!

3. Clean up the dishes in the kitchen

4. Wipe of the counters, stove and sink

5. Sweep the floor

6. Clean up the front room

7. Gather HOMELOVERS clothes & invites

8. Get kids up and dressed

9. Stop by THESE places:

a. Wells Fargo- get $40 in cash

b. Theresa's School- give birthday invitations

c. HOMELOVERS- give shirts, pick up JADE

d. Burger King- Celebrate FRENCH TOAST stick day around 5:20pm

e. Peter Piper Pizza- Give $30 to HOLD party reservation

f. Go home, most likely it will be around 6:30pm

10. Get on my "JOB as a WIFE" blog and update today's GOALS vs: RESULTS

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Goals vs Results 5/26/2011



I’m defiantly not liking this ‘not going to the park’ thing. I feel so lazy! No purpose to wake up and start my day! I’m still sittin in my shirt/pants from yesterday braless! LoL.

AND, I didn’t even mark down today’s goals until NAP TIME?!?! Come on Crystal!

I’ll get on the ball here today- watch, you’ll be impressed. J

Today's Goals

1. Get up, Eat breakfast

2. Change laundry over

3. Make Lunch/clean as I go

4. Clean up Kitchen & Dining room & counters

5. Fold and put away laundry

6. Clean up the corner of Jim's side of the bed

7. Play in the backyard with the kids

8. Clean up front room before Jim gets home

9. Read chapter one & two of my 'clutter' book

10. Tackle #1 and #2 of my 101 things to CLEAN before I move

Today's Results

1. Got up, ate breakfast with the kids

2. Changed laundry over

3. Made lunch, cleaned up as I went

4. Cleaned the kitchen a bit

5. Folded ALL the laundry and put it ALL away

6. Cleaned up Jim's corner

7. Started another load of laundry

8. THAT's IT! :o(

Very disappointed with myself... I'm sure things will get better as I get used to this... right?


Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Goals vs Results 5/25/2011




Today's Goals

1. Go for a walk-eat breakfast, play with kids

2. Come up with some new/fun ideas for interacting with kids

3. Wash another load of laundry

4. Clean up Kitchen, again (oh boy this is getting old already!)

5. Fold and put away laundry

6. Wash Matthew's Bedding

7. Color with my kids for 'day 1'

8. Clean up front room before Jim gets home

9. Read chapter one of my 'clutter' book

10. Tackle #1 and #2 of my 101 things to CLEAN before I move

Today's Results

1. Matthew didn't feel like a walk, so we ate breakfast

2. Kid's watched TV while I did my best not to doze off.

3. Washed a couple loads of laundry

4. Came up with some fun plans of stuff to do with the kids

5. Cleaned the Kitchen counters and did another load of dishes

6. Fold AND Put away MOST of the laundry (3 out of 4 aint' bad!)

7. Colored with my kids today

8. Cleaned up the front room- Brooklyn gets most of the credit. :o)

9. Washed Matthew's bedding

10. Will read chapter one of my 'clutter book' and started my BLOGGER site

11. BONUS!! AND I cleaned the bathroom top to bottom with LYSOL!